Father rights

Has any one had any problems with custody or accese for their kids ?

I may have to to down this root , and would like some advice from people who have been through it

I have no problem with access to my kids. They always find me when they want something (usually money).

I have no problem with access to my kids. They always find me when they want something (usually money).

Has any one had any problems with custody or accese for their kids ?

I may have to to down this root , and would like some advice from people who have been through it

i went through it and it cost me an arm and a leg! ... try and find some way of sorting it out between yourselfs ... i know that can be hardwork but its better than going down that expensive road .... hang on in there though because the results at the end of the day are well worth it ... my son now is my best friend

Hate to break it to you but you have no rights. Simple as! You have noticed fathers dressing up and climbing up those buildings in London? They are doing it to fight for some rights.

Fact is your wife can stand up in court and agree to everything, then when she walks out of court totally go back on what she said. Oh and they just love to use the kids as weopans against you as well. And there's nothing you can do about it. You are at her mercy sorry.

Hate to break it to you but you have no rights. Simple as! You have noticed fathers dressing up and climbing up those buildings in London? They are doing it to fight for some rights.

Fact is your wife can stand up in court and agree to everything, then when she walks out of court totally go back on what she said. Oh and they just love to use the kids as weopans against you as well. And there's nothing you can do about it. You are at her mercy sorry.

thats true of course but if he hangs on in there and take what he can the rewards are great because kids dont stay kids and they eventually do as THEY please .... just dont ever give in and walk away! ... my son was 21 months when it happened to me and i had 2 years of shit and went through the courts ... eventually my ex gave up as she knew i wasnt going to let go! ... my son is 13 in january and we have been season ticket holders for 7 seasons and thank god i kept fighting, because i did have some weak moments when i thought of giving up!

Why do women do it ?

We are both young , but I got a son from previous and always had contact and always pay my way ,
Like wise with the ex , always surported out Little girl , but now she thinks she's god ,

These some men who don't care like , but I would do anything for my kids !

This law system is fucked up .. And punish fathers who live for their kids !

Something needs to be done to change it

I went down the mediation route after seeking advice from a solicitor. It is a good way to resolve things as it is a neutral party who is only interested in moving forward and not dwell on the past. I now have a small amount of access to my son but we are working towards more access in the future. Mediation is a darn site cheaper than court aswell it works out around 120 pounds for a session but its worth it when you see your children.

Has any one had any problems with custody or accese for their kids ?

I may have to to down this root , and would like some advice from people who have been through it

Yes I battled for 3 and a half years for my daughter,breaking my heart, 34 cases, won them all, she kept moving the goal posts, represented myself in the end and gained a lot more, shared residency etc etc.

FATHERS NOWADAYS DO HAVE RIGHTS, BUT TO MANY WOMAN LIE.

Ph me if you need help.

Just make sure you tell them that you love them and no matter what anyone else tells them, you want to see them and that they mean the world to you. My ex ex ex played mind games for 1st couple of years with her then husband. He then got caught f*cking round and she expected me to be her shoulder to cry on. Ex s can be the most evil people on the world. Just tell the kids the truth.

And if it ever comes to shared custody don't end up in macdonalds on a Saturday afternoon (I go in on the way back from the beach and the ammount of single dads is unreal) go down the beach instead.

Good luck

Been through it in more ways anyone could ever imagine. See my three children maybe 3 times a year as they live abroad. Feel for you mate. It's plagued my life for 7 years. Each time I see them I got to get to know them all over again. Just as I'm getting to know them off they go again. Keep fighting because if I didn't then I wouldn't even see them as I do.

Avoid courts and CSA. They will always act in her favour.
Try and be as sociable with her as possible, even when she provokes you. Make sure you pay her by direct debit so it shows a record of you paying her regularly.
Tell your child you love them and see them as much as possible. Never refuse an opportunity to have them. When the child gets to 12 years old (I think) they can choose where they want to live. Make best use of your time together.
I have done all the above and my daughter is now 14. I have a fantastic relationship with her and see her 2-3 times a week and alternate weekends. She hopefully has 2 happy homes.

Thing is it just me she playing hard with ..

She got two kids with her ex and he doesn't pay for his kids at all odd 30 quid a month etc , and he lets them down all the time because he two busy with pub or his new mrs , yet she will let's him see them ..

Me I surported her her kids and my princess .. Pay every month for my princess extra money for prams clothes etc ,

Yet I can't have my own princess's on my own for a few hours , it has to be at her place for an hour , which I agree to but something always comes up ... It's fucked up

You got to strike up a fair balance... Be more than sociable, but don't be her lapdog as she'll treat you even worse. She knows she can push you as far as she wants. Hang on in there. It will be well worth it in the long run.
Best of luck to you. It will get worse before it gets better I'm sure.

Just make sure you keep fighting and let the ex know your not going to give up and prove that you will do anything for your child, my boy is seven months old now and now I am starting to get decent contact, as someone said in a post earlier avoid the CSA if you can, my ex went down that route and they were phoning me up saying you need to pay to support your child taking her side, I tried explaining I want to be there but they did not want to know. I would recommend mediation as it is cheaper and mine was resolved in 3 sessions. KTP solicitors run my mediation sessions and the mediator was brilliant he understands what fathers go through and makes the mothers realise what they are putting us through. If you need more info mate drop me a PM.

I've had a bit of shit, solicetor sent me to mediation, my ex didn't turn up after 3 attempts, have a verbal agreement now re maintenance etc CSA can't force back payments etc they will only get active from date of claim made by whichever party, if your named on birth certificate then there is nothing at all ur exs can do with access etc u less your deemed to be a risk on which case social services would need to be involved. I'm currently having difficulty as my ex won't allow me to take my daughter on holiday to Disney land or Italy next year mainly becos she's jealous that I'm now married and can afford to take her away... Women think they hold a lot of cards where in fact if you look into a lot of the laws they have f**k all but providing your on birth certificate then you should be fine... Duno if any of this helps at all

Thanks for all your help ...

I am not on the birth certificate , because she said haha , but my 1st step is to either talk her into putting me on their , or apply for parental responability

Is it any wonder fathers take their kids and try and do a runner off to another country with them?

The laws are the cause, not the father.

Thing is it just me she playing hard with ..

She got two kids with her ex and he doesn't pay for his kids at all odd 30 quid a month etc , and he lets them down all the time because he two busy with pub or his new mrs , yet she will let's him see them ..

Me I surported her her kids and my princess .. Pay every month for my princess extra money for prams clothes etc ,

Yet I can't have my own princess's on my own for a few hours , it has to be at her place for an hour , which I agree to but something always comes up ... It's fucked up

Bollocks to this. Personally son I think you need a rocket up your arse. You are an easy touch. Your ex most likely thought the grass was greener on the other side because the law would be on her side. Perhaps the law is on her side but don't make it easy for her.

It looks to me your ex is relying on you. I would make her beg. Yes she could go to court but that would cost her money but even more frustrating than that for her is these things take time. If your kids need stuff tell her you will go and buy them providing you take the kids. There are a few other things you could do depending on your situation.

This might come over harsh but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

Father rights - You have none unless it suits her, thats it, i could write a book here but it would be pointless as it will only make my blood boil again.