Life/depression/addiction

Anyone on here ever come out the other side or learnt to deal with it

my daughter is a mental health nurse, and i know quite a few who have/do suffer from it

My life is cardiff city, im depressed because VT has not converted debt to equity yet and my addiction is wanking

Anyone on here ever come out the other side or learnt to deal with it

Give yourself the best possible chance of beating that menace depression by cutting out the booze and caffeine. Regular sleep patterns and exercise and routine also good at keeping depression at bay.

Depression is such a personal thing but the above certainly helped for me. Good luck

I suffered massively with depression when my wife died last year fortunately my 2 daughters helped me through it , making me realise that I had to be there for them, my GP was amazing setting up counselling sessions which helped enormously. Best of luck mate.

Anyone on here ever come out the other side or learnt to deal with it

My wife has suffered from depression since our son died 14 years ago. With excellent support from our GP she has learnt to deal with it. Best of luck. My thoughts are with you.

My drug of choice was whatever you had, and what you had was my favourite, especially if you could lay me some on till tomorrow.

After 25 years I was pretty depressed, lost and emotionally fecked.

The turn around came on the millennium night whereby I realised I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I last took a mind altering substance on 13 sept 2000. The Olympic games in Australia started on the 15 sept.

Paula Yeats was found dead in her flat a few days later.

Hopefully I will be 12 years clean in a month.....my life is better than I've ever known.....you can come through it.

My drug of choice was whatever you had, and what you had was my favourite, especially if you could lay me some on till tomorrow.

After 25 years I was pretty depressed, lost and emotionally fecked.

The turn around came on the millennium night whereby I realised I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I last took a mind altering substance on 13 sept 2000. The Olympic games in Australia started on the 15 sept.

Paula Yeats was found dead in her flat a few days later.

Hopefully I will be 12 years clean in a month.....my life is better than I've ever known.....you can come through it.

Good post mate and well done on your recovery.

Been there still slip backwards now and again,best remedy i have found is think possitive,and dont laugh i go somewhere private and scream to myself to snap out of it,works for me.Good luck mate

I'm bi polar, only just finally got diagnosed but looking back, I see now I've lived with it all my adult life. I've found having an understanding of what is wrong with me helps me keep things in check.

When I'm on a high, I have to give my missus every card I own cos I'll piss away a fortune on booze, drugs, bookies, and anything else I feel like buying.

Its not that I dont give a f**k and become a c**t, its more that I just stop understanding what it is to be responsible.

I've been lucky enough to always made reasonable money so never ended up destitute but it could have been very different to be honest

when the downside begins, I just need to keep reminding myself that it is a prob with the chemicals in my brain and then stepping that back away from myself can be a little bit of a help.

Someone mentioned exercise, I totally agree. Either smashing the crap out of someone in the boxing ring (or get the shit kicked out of me is more like it cos most my mates I spar with are boxing news journos!) Or just a decent 10k run helps an awful lot when I'm heading into either a up or down stage and can stop me going one way or another a lot of the time.

Guess the most important thing I can say to help is that for me I find having an understanding of what's wrong with me is so important.

If you dont hve 125% faith in your doctor get a second opinion and then a third until you have a clear diagnosis that you agree with. Read everything you can on your specific illness. Depression and mental illness come in many different flavours and there is no one size fits all.

The good news is that depression is treatable and you can overcome it and put it behind you. If its bi polar the issues won't go away but they can be managed.

Good luck mate you can make it through whatever shit you have to deal with.

It's all about mental strength. And exercise. stay off the anti-deps if you can, shit changes people

Good Luck Mate!

I'm bi polar, only just finally got diagnosed but looking back, I see now I've lived with it all my adult life. I've found having an understanding of what is wrong with me helps me keep things in check.

When I'm on a high, I have to give my missus every card I own cos I'll piss away a fortune on booze, drugs, bookies, and anything else I feel like buying.

Its not that I dont give a f**k and become a c**t, its more that I just stop understanding what it is to be responsible.

I've been lucky enough to always made reasonable money so never ended up destitute but it could have been very different to be honest

when the downside begins, I just need to keep reminding myself that it is a prob with the chemicals in my brain and then stepping that back away from myself can be a little bit of a help.

Someone mentioned exercise, I totally agree. Either smashing the crap out of someone in the boxing ring (or get the shit kicked out of me is more like it cos most my mates I spar with are boxing news journos!) Or just a decent 10k run helps an awful lot when I'm heading into either a up or down stage and can stop me going one way or another a lot of the time.

Guess the most important thing I can say to help is that for me I find having an understanding of what's wrong with me is so important.

If you dont hve 125% faith in your doctor get a second opinion and then a third until you have a clear diagnosis that you agree with. Read everything you can on your specific illness. Depression and mental illness come in many different flavours and there is no one size fits all.

The good news is that depression is treatable and you can overcome it and put it behind you. If its bi polar the issues won't go away but they can be managed.

Good luck mate you can make it through whatever shit you have to deal with.

Today I have been Diagnosed mate and I feel like it is an excuse? What you have just posted i can relate to 100%, I have lost thousands fella.

Ill get there, 90% of the time I am normal, that 10% fucks me up, and unless you know or have been there you will never understand how fucked up it is.

My own experience was like all of the above , awful !
What I will say is all the posters are right , in that there is no definitive answer to this , and I agree with the help you can get , use it , don't be ashamed or embarrassed as I was !
Depression only affects people who care , good people basically , if ya don't give a fck about anything or anyone , you'll never have any worries !
I had help and understanding from from freinds, workmates , family , everyone who knew that this 6'3 , 15 st bloke wasn't feeling very well, once they found out cos I didn't want to tell them , but as soon as I did it was like the weight of the world was lifted off me , and I thank them all.
With regard to excercise , I tried to lie in bed all day , used to wake up hungry , have a glass of water , and sleep some more , one day , one of my dogs woke me , and just stared into my eyes , I crawled out of bed , took em for a walk , and kept promising I'd do it again tomorrow , that was 10 years ago , both my dogs are now gone but I've got 2 others and I've never felt better ! Tommorrow will always be better ! Good luck to you all !

My own experience was like all of the above , awful !
What I will say is all the posters are right , in that there is no definitive answer to this , and I agree with the help you can get , use it , don't be ashamed or embarrassed as I was !
Depression only affects people who care , good people basically , if ya don't give a fck about anything or anyone , you'll never have any worries !
I had help and understanding from from freinds, workmates , family , everyone who knew that this 6'3 , 15 st bloke wasn't feeling very well, once they found out cos I didn't want to tell them , but as soon as I did it was like the weight of the world was lifted off me , and I thank them all.
With regard to excercise , I tried to lie in bed all day , used to wake up hungry , have a glass of water , and sleep some more , one day , one of my dogs woke me , and just stared into my eyes , I crawled out of bed , took em for a walk , and kept promising I'd do it again tomorrow , that was 10 years ago , both my dogs are now gone but I've got 2 others and I've never felt better ! Tommorrow will always be better ! Good luck to you all !

Pete, Thanks for posting fella. long road, I Will smash it fella

My life is cardiff city, im depressed because VT has not converted debt to equity yet and my addiction is wanking

In all seriousness Millar, good luck with it mate.

My drug of choice was whatever you had, and what you had was my favourite, especially if you could lay me some on till tomorrow.

After 25 years I was pretty depressed, lost and emotionally fecked.

The turn around came on the millennium night whereby I realised I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I last took a mind altering substance on 13 sept 2000. The Olympic games in Australia started on the 15 sept.

Paula Yeats was found dead in her flat a few days later.

Hopefully I will be 12 years clean in a month.....my life is better than I've ever known.....you can come through it.

what a fantastic and inspirational post,

Anyone on here ever come out the other side or learnt to deal with it

if ever you just want a chat,im just an ordinary bloke,that trys not to judge,ive gone thro a fair amount of shit,my 2 best mates dieing,1 from drugs,and have seperated from my wife a year ago,i dont want to know your buisness,but again there are times that you just want to talk,and i am glad that people make these topics,look at the fantastic responses you have had from.......ordinary people.......i wish you all the best...

Oh theres some dear deidre storys in here Stuff i thought city fans wouldnt even speak about after all its the internet.

I have come out the other side of anxiety and depression, brought on by a stressful job at the time, with the help of meds but fighting an extremely difficult battle with the gambling addiction at the moment.

My missus now has all my cards and I get cash off her which means I am not drinking or sniffing as much. They are vices rather than addiction anyway and gambling is my real achillies heel.

Dont see the diagnosis as a weakness mate, embrace it. Its nothing to be ashamed of.

Oh theres some dear deidre storys in here Stuff i thought city fans wouldnt even speak about after all its the internet.

Perhaps its because people find it easier to put things down online than speaking to family or a mate.

Leave it out eh not every thread has to be a pisstake.

Oh theres some dear deidre storys in here Stuff i thought city fans wouldnt even speak about after all its the internet.

Perhaps its because people find it easier to put things down online than speaking to family or a mate.

Leave it out eh not every thread has to be a pisstake.

Yes i know what you mean when the thread started i post 1st but since then i see people have put there own experiences down and some are pretty much shocking tbh. I have never had any of these lucky enough but feel for them who have.

Oh theres some dear deidre storys in here Stuff i thought city fans wouldnt even speak about after all its the internet.

Perhaps its because people find it easier to put things down online than speaking to family or a mate.

Leave it out eh not every thread has to be a pisstake.

spot on,some of us are not lucky enough to go through life with no bad,sad times

Oh theres some dear deidre storys in here Stuff i thought city fans wouldnt even speak about after all its the internet.

Perhaps its because people find it easier to put things down online than speaking to family or a mate.

Leave it out eh not every thread has to be a pisstake.

I was only last week told I have adult ADHD, it seems silly but as a child I had ADHD which nothing was done about. With Adult ADHD its almost impossible to focus and concontrate, low self asteem addition, anger, you want to do well in work but there is a chemical unbalance in the brain that stops you, it makes work very hard and you need to have a very understanding boss. which after i explained my condition he has been great to be fair. Just started meds now, need counciling and behavioral theropy. I feel more positive after being diognosed though as you know its not you just being strange lol. One minute im boucning off the walls the next very depressed. Healthy eating and plently of excerzie is key i have been told and you do feel better, unfortantly there is no cure for adlut ADHD they are still learning about it. Keep fit, eat well and talk about it, it will help!

In the mid to later 90's I was awfully depressed, in and out of shit jobs, banged up for months after a crazy night out and suffered huge comedowns after what seemed like every weekend was a house music night. I needed to get out of the area and then one of the boys come up with the idea of going to Australia in the TBS canteen one day. That idea quickly spread with around ten of us all applying for our working visa at the same time.

When I got over there I soon realised that life was never as bad as I thought it was and that experience quickly provided me with a completely different job, a completely different life and a completely different outlook.

I'm not saying to go to the other end of the world I'm just saying that sometimes by just getting out of the normal routine for even a few weeks it can help you take a good look at yourself and think of what future you want for yourself. I suppose thats why people say a holiday away to recharge the batteries is always a good thing.

Good luck mate