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' Neil Warnocks Wife, Sharon Warnock '

Tue Dec 26, 2017 8:13 am

' Neil Warnocks Wife, Sharon Warnock '

Daily Mail


Tuesday 26th December 2017


Side-effect of cancer treatment that can devastate your life: Football manager's wife Sharon Warnock describes her struggle with lymphoedema

As Sharon Warnock tried to push her right arm through her sleeve, she started to panic — the night before when she’d gone to bed, her arm had been normal, but it was now so swollen she couldn’t get her top on. It was also tender and starting to ache.

Sharon rang her GP for an urgent appointment, but she already suspected it was lymphoedema — a condition caused by damage in the lymphatic system, which leads to fluid retention and tissue swelling especially in the arms and legs.

She had done her own research and knew lymphoedema was often linked to treatment for breast cancer — only a month before she’d completed a course of chemotherapy following a mastectomy.


After the GP confirmed that it was in fact lymphoedema, Sharon had to wait nearly a month in agony before she was seen by a specialist nurse — by then, her right arm was 30 per cent bigger than her left.

‘The pain was terrible, as was the inability to use my arm,’ says Sharon, 46. ‘I was terrified it would never look normal or work properly again. It took nearly four weeks for me to get to see a specialist who could help me manage the condition and advise on the therapies I would need.’

Sharon has since undergone the few treatments that are available and, though her condition has improved, lymphoedema is incurable.

‘Although I don’t allow myself to get down and I don’t ask for sympathy, the fact is lymphoedema has taken over my whole life,’ says Sharon, mother to Amy, 19, and William, 16.

‘I have to think carefully about what I’m wearing and even just picking up my grandchildren [from her husband’s children in a previous marriage] for a cuddle is now impossible with my arm.’

Her husband, Neil, the Cardiff City football manager, adds: ‘I don’t think people realise what a severe condition it is and the life-changing effect is has. Her suffering was intensified by the lack of initial and immediate support.

‘Although she just got on with it, I could see she was struggling: she’d only just got over cancer and a mastectomy and then was faced with another devastating blow.’

There are nearly a quarter of a million people in the UK living with lymphoedema. The condition is often associated with breast cancer treatment, when lymph nodes — small glands that filter lymph fluid — are removed.

As a result, the lymph fluid, which contains immune cells and helps carry away waste, can’t drain as normal, causing swelling and ultimately thickened skin.

Around 25 per cent of breast cancer patients develop lymphoedema, but cancer treatment is not the only cause. For every cancer-related lymphoedema case, there are three non-cancer cases.

This so-called primary lymphoedema occurs as a result of a genetic fault that causes weakness of the lymph vessels.

It can affect men or women of any age and often runs in families. Secondary lymphoedema occurs when a healthy lymphatic system is damaged — by cancer treatment, injury or infection.

The 46-year-old wife of Neil Warnock was diagnosed with lympoedema a month after recovering from breast cancer - around 25 per cent of breast cancer patients develop lymphoedema

People who have varicose veins or leg ulcers, or who have reduced movement or are obese, are at risk of secondary lymphoedema.

All forms are more common in women, partly because it becomes more common with age — and women tend to live longer.

Whatever the cause, the physical and emotional toll of lymphoedema can be significant. As Sharon says: ‘Coping with the lymphoedema has been far worse than my cancer. There was a cure for my cancer, but there is no cure for lymphoedema and I have to manage it every single day.’

The sooner a patient can be treated, the better, says Dr Kristiana Gordon, a consultant in dermatology and lymphovascular medicine at St George’s Hospital, London. But, she adds, provision of care for this relatively common condition is something of a postcode lottery.

‘Some areas, such as London, have big clinics that are easily accessible, but in other areas they are very sparse, which intensifies the patient’s distress.’

Delays can occur, too, as awareness of lymphoedema remains low even among doctors. ‘Many GPs still know so little about the condition and this can lead to delays in receiving specialist care,’ says Dr Gordon.

‘It’s not their fault. It isn’t routinely taught at medical school.’

Mrs Warnock (pictured with her family) was shocked at the lack of help available when she was diagnosed with lymphoedema a month after finishing six cycles of chemotherapy

Treatments include manual lymphatic drainage massages that help reduce fluid build-up; compression garments can also help by encouraging the flow of blood and lymph fluid, says Dr Gordon.

Occasionally, specialist liposuction may be offered to help reduce the bulk of a swollen limb.

Sharon was shocked at the lack of help available when she was diagnosed a month after finishing six cycles of chemotherapy.

She had been diagnosed with breast cancer in November 2015 — the disease had spread to her lymph nodes and she underwent a mastectomy of her right breast, followed by chemotherapy and radiotherapy.

‘The cancer diagnosis was a huge shock,’ says Sharon. ‘I had always classed myself as healthy — I rarely drank, never smoked, ate a nutritious diet and exercised and there was no known family history of the condition.’

The treatment, however, was fairly straightforward. ‘Mentally, I could deal with it.’

But the lymphoedema, which followed in May 2016, has been harder to deal with. ‘It was intensified by the fact that I didn’t seem to be able to find any help when I desperately needed advice and support when it first came on.’

Told she would need to wait weeks for an appointment with a specialist nurse, Sharon researched online and found a private therapist who specialised in the massages but, as she discovered, it was only a temporary fix.

‘The massage was extremely effective for short-term relief. But within days the pain and swelling started again.’

Back in June, Sharon was seen by a lymphoedema nurse at St Luke’s Hospice in Plymouth and was fitted with a standard size compression sleeve. Unfortunately, it made things worse.

‘Very quickly my hand started swelling as the compression sleeve had simply moved the fluid from my arm to my hand, putting more pressure on that area,’ says Sharon. ‘It was extremely puffy, heavy and very painful and felt like it was going to pop. I couldn’t pick up anything heavy and doing anything repetitive such as chopping vegetables was a struggle.’

But it’s not only the physical problems. Dr Gordon says the psychological impact of lymphoedema can be enormous.

‘Not only do patients suddenly have to consider everything they do physically, they become very conscious of their appearance,’ she says. ‘We often hear sufferers tell us they feel ugly.’

Sharon admits the lymphoedema left her feeling ‘suddenly extremely conscious of my appearance’.

‘I loathed how my right arm looked,’ she says. ‘I compared it to a penguin’s flipper — it didn’t lay flat on my body and almost stuck out.’

However, things are improving. Six months after having the standard compression sleeve, Sharon was prescribed a made-to-measure sleeve on the NHS.

‘The difference was phenomonal,’ she says. ‘Because the bespoke sleeve was putting an equal amount of pressure across the whole of my arm, not just in a few spots, the swelling in my hand disappeared instantly.’

As well as the sleeve, which she wears constantly when awake, Sharon uses a Hydroven 12 machine — available from specialist suppliers — which mimics the effects of a manual lymphatic drainage massage for 45 minutes a day.

‘Together it really helps to reduce the pain and swelling. I’m also becoming much better at choosing outfits.’

Sharon’s right arm is now almost 40 per cent bigger than her left.

‘Every day is still very hard. I have to really think about my plans and if I can actually, physically do them,’ she says.

‘I can’t garden like I used to — the prick of a rose thorn can leave my arm infected. And I know if I have to drive a long distance I may suffer afterwards, so will ask Neil to take me if he isn’t working.

‘I have a long struggle ahead to overcome this,’ she adds. ‘But I refuse to let this condition overtake me.’
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Re: ' Neil Warnocks Wife, Sharon Warnock '

Tue Dec 26, 2017 8:14 am

What is the incurable condition lymphoedema?


Lymphoedema is a long-term (chronic) condition that causes swelling in the body's tissues. It can affect any part of the body, but usually develops in the arms or legs.

It develops when the lymphatic system doesn't work properly. The lymphatic system is a network of channels and glands throughout the body that helps fight infection and remove excess fluid.
It's important that lymphoedema is identified and treated as soon as possible. If it isn't treated, it can get worse.
The main symptom of lymphoedema is swelling in all or part of a limb or another part of the body. It can be difficult to fit into clothes, and jewellery and watches can feel tight.

At first, the swelling may come and go. It may get worse during the day and go down overnight. Without treatment, it will usually become more severe and persistent.

Source: The NHS

Re: ' Neil Warnocks Wife, Sharon Warnock '

Tue Dec 26, 2017 8:19 am

Sounds an absolutely awful condition.

She's been through a horrendous time

Re: ' Neil Warnocks Wife, Sharon Warnock '

Tue Dec 26, 2017 8:21 am

NIBluebird wrote:Sounds an absolutely awful condition.

She's been through a horrendous time


Yes Horrendous time Mike and how Warnock manages to still do his work so well is unbelievable :thumbright: :thumbright:

Re: ' Neil Warnocks Wife, Sharon Warnock '

Tue Dec 26, 2017 10:37 am

Forever Blue wrote:
NIBluebird wrote:Sounds an absolutely awful condition.

She's been through a horrendous time


Yes Horrendous time Mike and how Warnock manages to still do his work so well is unbelievable :thumbright: :thumbright:


A absolute nightmare for the Warnock family, as I know only too well but the best thing the family can do is carry on as normally as possible within the certain parameters that such a condition will allow!

I think The Warnock family have shown huge courage and for Sharon to tell Neil "Go to Cardiff City" is a mark of the lady herself and shows how well she knows her man!

As for Neil himself, he must have been consumed with fear for his beloved wife knowing there was little he could do other than 'be there' for her during some very tough times and we can be certain that he was. He is that kind of guy; traditional values and a total love for his family!

That Neil Warnock has come to Cardiff City at a time when both he and the club were in turmoil needs some real-time thinking to appreciate exactly how valuable that has been to both parties. Indeed, it takes an equal amount of thinking to see how well the pieces of the notoriously difficult football jig-saw have fitted together and the impact each has had on the other...

Neil Warnock is already a Cardiff City legend (regardless of how we fare this season and beyond) and the City fans in general love him. Vincent Tan must love him too, because he (Neil Warnock) is delivering like no other City manager has in his (Tan's) time at the club, i.e. a successful side, an increasingly re-united fan base and all on a relative shoestring budget!

What I would tell City fans (and Vincent Tan) is don't get too complacent with him; at 69 years young, he isn't here for the long-haul, so we need to embrace him whilst we can and support his undoubted abilities to build a team and make it work whilst we/he can!

As a City fan of long-standing, I bow to Neil Warnock and I salute Sharon Warnock for her bravery! :notworthy: :ayatollah:

Re: ' Neil Warnocks Wife, Sharon Warnock '

Wed Dec 27, 2017 5:34 am

What a courageous family, we are very lucky to have such a great manager whether we go up or not :bluescarf: :bluescarf: