O/T Dilemma

Alright fellow bluebirds, may not be the best place to post this but struggling atm.

My partners from West Midlands, i'm a Cardiff lad, we have a daughter aged 2, we're currently livingin Cardiff however she is depressed and unhappy living down here, she's now said she is looking to move back to the West Midlands to live long term, we have been going through a rough patch but thought things had been getting better.

Has anyone up sticks and left their family / life down here to move away, i'm taking this hard, as I ain't a fan of change, I love my family and friends, been in my job 11 years and now all this nonsense of moving, having to look for another job etc is upsetting to say the least.

I love my partner and can't bear the thought of seeing my only child a few weekends a month due to the distance.

If anyone who's been in a similar situation could help, I would appreciate it.

Only you can make that choice mate, but isn't it better to regret doing something you did than to regret something you didn't do?

I feel for you and what you're going through. I moved away from Cardiff and now have a family of my own. Of course I miss Cardiff and my friends/family, but I have my own family and children now.

The way I see it, your friends and family are always going to be there for you so if something doesn't quite work out, you know where they are.

As I said, surely it's better to try and it not work than to not try at all? If she's not happy, maybe it's what will make all the difference?

I know I've never met you but I genuinely wish you the best mate.

Hi mate, as the above poster said, you will regret it if you don't at least give it a try. I did this years a ago moving to Ireland to be with my little boy, as it turned out the relationship did not last a year but at least I had that year with my boy. I then stayed here so I could still see him, it was hard and lonely at times but then met my beautiful wife and have stayed ever since and see my boy every weekend and have a daughter to boot! Look only you can make the call but what have you got to lose? Your family and friends will always be there. I really wish you the best in this difficult decision mate, stick with it and think of your boy. Good luck

Thanks lads, so grateful for your input.

I think the main thing worrying me is not seeing my family, we're a really close knit family, I'm upset for my Daughter as she is close to her grandparents (my folks) and to her cousin (my sisters little boy) - and now she's going to be 130 miles away from them, spending more and more time with my partners family, just scared at the age of 2 she will forget about my family. I've told my partner if it does happen, i'll be going back home 2 weekends a month to see my family with my Daughter. I'll have to sort out Skype to catch up with the rest of my family.

Whatever happens happens like, i'll be there for my daughter no matter what.